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Is it ok to have my dad and brother walk me down the aisle?

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ashleygarlanger@yahoo.com
Wedding Date: Jun, 2010
Madison, WI, USA
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Me and my fiance are only having one person stand up for each of us. I was hoping and begging that my fiance would pick my brother to stand but he didnt. He picked someone that I have never even met actually. I want my brother included. Would it be weird if I had my dad and my brother walk me down the aisle?

Posted in Madison, WI, USA
Written on Jan. 19, 2010

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Love_birds
agrobot
Wedding Date: Aug, 2009
Madison, WI, USA
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I love that idea-- a wonderful way to include him. I toyed with the idea but our aisle was so small, I ended up having him do a reading instead.

Written on Jan. 19, 2010
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deerinlc
Wedding Date: Aug, 2007
Madison, WI, USA
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Not weird at all !

Written on Jan. 19, 2010
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dyang
Wedding Date: Aug, 2008
Madison, WI, USA
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Now-a-days - anything goes! So go for it!

Written on Jan. 19, 2010
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plastic.crocodile
Wedding Date: Oct, 2010
Madison, WI, USA
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do it! its your wedding!

Written on Jan. 19, 2010
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tandem4us@gmail.com
Wedding Date: Jun, 2009
Madison, WI, USA
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Your wedding, so do it your way. But, consider carefully before stealing your Dad's special moment that he has probably dreamed about since you were a little girl.

There are plenty of other ways to involve your brother.... You could ask your brother to deliver a toast, do a reading during the ceremony, sing or play a special song if he's musically inclined, serve as your ring-bearer (doesn't have to be a little boy), read a special poem during the cake cutting ceremony, or countless other honors that would make the start of your marriage extra special.

Written on Jan. 20, 2010
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aapfelbeck
Wedding Date: Jul, 2010
Madison, WI, USA
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I think it's a great idea. I love the thought of the brides entire immediate family walking her down the isle. But a good point was brought up...make sure your dad is ok with it :) I think asking your brother to do a toast is also very special as well. It's not often the brother of the bride gets to deliver a toast.

Written on Jan. 20, 2010
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SummerWedding
Wedding Date: Jul, 2011
Madison, WI, USA
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I like the idea! Very cute :)

Written on Jan. 20, 2010
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ashleygarlanger@yahoo.com
Wedding Date: Jun, 2010
Madison, WI, USA
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Thanks for all your input!

Written on Jan. 20, 2010
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Angela and Jaime
Wedding Date: Sep, 2010
Madison, WI, USA
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Have you thought about making him an usher?

Written on Jan. 21, 2010
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karamanski@plannedspontaneity.net

Hi Ashley,
Marilee Karamanski here. There's nothing wrong with your brother and father walking you down the aisle, provided Dad's okay with it. It does tend to be an emotional moment for dads- sometimes more than they expect. So, you know your dad better than anyone in this online community, and if it's good with him, it's good.

Another thing to consider, however, is stepping a little further outside the box. It is becoming more common (and also completely acceptable) to have mixed bridal parties. You could ask your brother to stand up for *you*. There is no law (or even strict etiquette) that says you may only have women standing next to you and he may only have men next to him and both sides must have equal numbers. If your emotion and intuition are that you want your brother to be in the bridal party, then ask him to stand with you in your bridal party!

I would love to hear what solution you use!

Marilee Karamanski
www.Plannedspontaneity.net
608-556-0346

Written on Feb. 23, 2010

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