It is not uncommon to have a smaller intimate wedding for family and close friends anda larger after party that includes more people. No need to feel badly. Our recommendation - go for it.
Jim and Sandy Belote & staff
BEALL MANSION An Elegant Bed & Breakfast Inn
St. Louis Metro East | Alton, IL 62002
I would think it's okay. They might appreciate not having to sit through the ceremony before getting to the party with the free food and drinks!!
A destination ceremony is meant to be intimate so inviting more people to just the after-party back home should be understood by family and friends. Either way people are excited just to be a part of the big event.
It is absolutely appropriate to have seperate guest lists for the two events. Guests are understanding, particularly for destination weddings.
Sara at Wedding Favors To Love
I agree that a destination wedding is usually small and intimate. Guest will appreciate the invitation later in celebration of your marriage.
I had more people at my ceremony than my reception. That is absolutely appropriate. I had two inserts for my inviation. One was for the ceremony inof and the other for the reception. I left the ceremony insert out for those invitations that were only for the reception. It worked out well. There were some people who expected both invites, but most people who are not close to the family were fien. So, my only advise is to just make sure what your guests are like and what might be their expectations. There are some ideas for weddings and invitations at www.chicweddingfavors.com if you need more input.
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