I am getting married this May on Ft Myers Beach. My parents live down there and have been a huge help in calming my fears, which sound like the same as yours. : )
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So Pink Shell is EXPENSIVE! If you have money, go for it - it is beautiful!! The Holiday Inn was also a little pricey ($2,000.00 just to rent a reception room) and considering the beach is far away, so no 'beach front' rooms.
Now I will say, I have not had my wedding yet, but we are getting married on the beach in front of the Lani Kai and then using their Sabal Palm room for the reception. My parents said the place is a little older and may need some mending - due to the saltwater, but all my guests can afford it and they will have private balconies facing the beach! So far the coordinator there has been SOOO helpful and really helps put me at ease. Call Carolyn Epperson 239-463-3111 or her personal cell 239-895-3304... [email protected]
Things to do...I included this in my invites...
"Fort Myers Beach Pier, Fishing Charters/Boat Rental, Shopping, Golf, Sunset Cruises, Lovers Key State Park, Everglades Tours, Dolphin Encounters, Snorkeling & Scuba Diving, Captiva Cruises, Eco Tours, Manatee World, Express Cruise to Key West, Barbara B Mann Performing Arts Hall, Lovers Key State Park, Bay Beach Golf Club, Germain Arena, Jet Ski/Parasail, Caribbean Gardens Naples Zoo, Naples-Fort Myers Greyhound Track, Philharmonic Center For The Arts and much more!!
For the dinner boat cruise.. http://www.fortmyersprincess.com/
Good Luck! I'll post with feedback once mine is done.
If you are wanting a beach wedding without the cost of using a resort we do lots of weddings at Bowditch BEach Park it is 50 yards down from the Pink Shell and is free!
Feel free to send me an e-mail or call and I can give you some guidence and helpful hints on different things for wedding and fun to do things way to many to type here!
I attached a photo of a sunset wedding on Bowditch Beach from 3 weeks ago!
Click on each tool to see a sample.