Barbara Behrmann is a fantastic lady. She does many of events like yours.
Country Inn & Suites ithaca, NY
She's already booked for our date/time, but thansk Ilana!
Janet Shortall ([email protected]), the Associate Director for Cornell United Religious Work, is a Unitarian minister who does a wonderful job with informal outdoor ceremonies. My husband is Jewish and I was raised Protestant. We wanted a service that was spiritual without being religious. Our wedding was outdoors at a B&B last June; Janet didn't wear any robes, and none of our readings were religious. It was a lovely service, and many guests said it was one of the nicest weddings they attended. I don't know if this would be what you're looking for, but Janet is very nice and might be able to put you in touch with someone else if you're looking to avoid having a religious person officiate.
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