Mine was held at the Nassau Inn. They did an outstanding job and the food was delicious. After, we moved downstairs to the Tap Room for cocktails. Another good idea is Mediterra, if you want a more social setting.
Are you an alum? If so, and if you are not having your reception there, consider Prospect House - it is fabulous. The food is only good (not great), but the house is spectacular!
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