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Religious or civil ceremony?
Hi! My name is Rosalind and my fiance and I are looking to get married in Rome. We are having a problem deciding if we should have a civil ceremony or a religious ceremony. Now that the fees for foreigners to get married in Rome has increased to about $2,000 USD for civil ceremonies we are considering having the ceremony in a Catholic church. However, we are not sure of what the average cost is for this. We are not looking for a big church, just something small yet with the antiquity and beauty that Roman churches are known for. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
Posted in Rome, Lazio, IT
Written on Jun. 11, 2009
Rome, Lazio, IT
My fiance and I are getting married in Rome October 2, 2009 (we are from New York). We are getting married at Santa Maria in Trastevere. We are currently going through the process of getting our civil paperwork ready for the church wedding. There are 2 ways to do this:
1) Do a civil ceremony in your home country (where do you live?) and have a Church Ceremony in Italy
2) Do a church Ceremony and Civil Ceremony together (church ceremonies are considered civil in Italy).
The 1st choice means your registered wedding date and your church date will not be the same. But it is cheaper. For all churches in Italy it is about 300 Euro to get married.
The second choice is more paperwork and more running around. We have hired someone to help us with this through our wedding planner which is costing us (with all the fees) about $500 plus the church "donation". You have to be in Rome about 3-4 days prior to your wedding. If you live in the US then I can give you more detailed information. Ultimately what made us choose this process was the fact that our wedding date would be the same civil or religious.
Hope that info helps. If you have more questions I'd be happy to help! Its a fun process so enjoy it! You are getting married in a beautiful place...we are so excited!
We are for sure enjoying the experience and it is a lot of fun! We are just nervous about making everything fall into place without us being there to have a more "hands on" way of getting it all together...if that makes sense. I couldn't be more excited to be getting married in Rome, it has a lot of meaning to my fiance and I! Your wedding is quickly approaching! You must be so happy! Trastevere is my favorite area in Rome, your wedding will be so beautiful :)
We live in Chicago, so any more advice you have will for sure be helpful! The last quote we received from a wedding planner in Rome was about 3,000 Euro for a church ceremony and we thought this was a little bit of a high price. We are looking for something simple and inexpensive but it is important to me to have a religious ceremony because of my Catholic upbringing (the groom is Catholic as well) We would be interested in knowing if you could refer us to the planner(s) that you are working with? We have thought about being married in Chicago prior to arriving in Rome but we would like to have only one wedding ceremony.
Did the planner that you are working with give you a list of churches that he or she works with or did you decide on a church on your own? Has it been difficult having everything arranged for your ceremony in Santa Maria?
Another concern of ours is having music there, has your planner been helpful with finding songs or a quartet to play during your ceremony?
I look forward to hearing back from you and thank you so much for the information that you have provided!
Rome, Lazio, IT
Hi! You and I are in similar situations as Rome means a lot to my fiance as well!
As far as the quotes you are getting from the wedding planners that seems about right. We actually know someone through our family who is an American and now lives in Genoa, Italy and just so happens to be an Italian wedding planner. She has been very good and extremely helpful. The process in Italy is much different than in the states so personally, to save yourself some aggravation I do recommend a wedding planner. That is unless you or your fiance have contacts in Italy who can help. Nothing has been that difficult for us because Laura, our wedding planner, has walked us through everything. If you choose a planner its good to consider a few things:
1) Do you want someone who lives in Rome? They have personal contacts and may know the area better.
2) Do you want to go with a bigger company or a small company of 1-2 people? There are pro's and con's to both.
3) Is price your deciding factor? Price and expertise do not always go hand in hand...
If you are having a lot of people coming to your wedding you really may want to consider using someone. To answer some of your questions, yes I have music. String trio at the church, jazz band at the cocktail, DJ during meal and dancing after.
I probably have much more to offer you as far as information. I am happy to have you email me and I can send you whatever you need. My email is my screen name with @aol.com. I would also be happy to send my web page over email as well :)!
Looking forward to hearing from you!
Rome, Lazio, IT
Hi. I just wanted to add my opinion. I am American, but I live in Rome. I am getting married here in about three weeks and we chose to have a civil service. The process is confusing...and I am here to attend to all the details! I could not imagine doing all of this from the US, so even though I did not use any kind of wedding planner, I would definitely recommend it if you are in another country.
Churches do cost about 300 euros but many people give a donation much larger than that. I really don't know much about the fees because our civil service is free because I have my residency in Rome.
There are probably 400 churches in Rome...so there are a lot to chose from.
Let me know if I can provide anymore information.
Rome, Lazio, IT
We are a couple of Italian photographers located in Rome. (http://www.fotografiematrimoni.it/inglese/Contacts_Italian_Wedding_Photographers_Rome_Italy.html)
We usually works with foreign for yours weddings (my colleague is mother tongue English)
In Rome the church most used for weddings abroad is Santa Susanna (http://www.romeartlover.it/Vasi148.htm).
For a civil ceremony, the place are: Sala Rossa in Campidoglio and Complesso Vignola Mattei.
Our website contains some information on places where you can get married in Rome. The link is:
Hope this may be of help.
Please do not hesitate to contact me for any further details.
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Hi, I got married in Rome on the 9th of July. I had a catholic ceremony in St Isidores. It's an Irish monstary and the church is beautiful and small. It has gardens that you can have pics taken in. It really is a lovely place. The girl there is really helpful and sorted music flowers photographer and recommend places for receptions. I highly recommend this place. I have attached a pic of the inside of the church from our wedding. If I can be of any help please let me know.
I am getting married in St Isidores Sept 2011. Have you any more pictures of the building and ceremony??
Sorry i have not checked this email in ages. If you send me your email address I will send you some.