I think you need to take a step back and breath. Woosah for a moment. I have been planning our destination wedding, and notice that I said I, cause it's not really "we" ;)
It has been stressful, but you need to focus on what will make you happy and not everyone else. Not sure how many people you invited, or the costs, but try cutting costs where you can. For example, if you have free weekends, you can take on some DIY projects that can save you money. I made my own invitations, menu cards, candy buffet, favors etc. and on the invites alone, I saved about $300.00. Negotiate where you can, the worst answer you can get is "no".
Also on the reception piece, if your planning a sit down dinner, some places cut the cost if you give them the headcount and choice of dinner plates in advance, you can gather this information by asking it on the response cards. Either way, it should be about you and the future hubby.
Good luck!
Written on Jan. 28, 2011