Congratulations! First, let me say, enjoy your engagement and take your time selecting your attendants. Second, have you considered a wedding coordinator? I'd be happy to visit with you about your plans.
Where to start? Decide the type of wedding you want. This will help in finding just the right place for the wedding. For example, are you looking for more Colorado theme then I'd suggest looking at Crooked Willow Ranch or Spruce Mountain Ranch or Shadow's ranch. Any of these you can have an "elegant Colorado style wedding/reception". What is your budget? This also would help narrow down the recommendations.
How many guests are you inviting? A beautiful pool etc you might check out the 4 Seasons as they have an area by the pool. Another option is to look at places like the Sonnenalp in Vail, which has the pool very close by the ballroom. Look at mountvernoncountryclub.com They are located on Lookout Mountain, beautiful views, easy to get to and are a private club.
It's going to be hard to find a place that will allow a ceremony by the pool as this is considered a public area, but that's not to say it can't be accomplished. You also need to have a back up in case of weather. (I did a July 4 wedding two years ago and it rained and the temp was in the low 50's!) Be prepared.
If I can be of any assistance, don't hesitate to contact me at Tanya@WeddingsbyTanya.com or call 303-779-0395. I'd be happy to visit with you.
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