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Guest List Dilemma

August 06, 2017 7:57:49 pm

Posted in St Louis, MO, USA
Emptyprofileicon Snickers Wedding date: August 06, 2011 St Louis, MO, USA

The invitations for our daughter's destination wedding and after party went out about 10 days ago. We basically didn't want to pick and choose who got an invite to the wedding and who would be invited to the after party back at home, so our entire guest list was invited to both and the rsvp card had options for accepting or declining either event. Now we've discovered that we have some "wiggle" room in the budget and are considering inviting some people we left off the original invitation list to join us for the after party. Is it appropriate to invite them to the after party and not to have invited them to the wedding? I'm torn over what to do. My husband says just invite them, but I want to do what is best, and right. Thanks!

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85587 Jim and Sandy Belote

June 24, 2011 6:12:18 pm

It is not uncommon to have a smaller intimate wedding for family and close friends anda larger after party that includes more people. No need to feel badly. Our recommendation - go for it.

Jim and Sandy Belote & staff
BEALL MANSION An Elegant Bed & Breakfast Inn
St. Louis Metro East | Alton, IL 62002
www.beallmansion.com

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250071 Barbara Smoyer Wedding date: November 05, 2011 St Louis, MO, USA

June 24, 2011 9:47:20 pm

I would think it's okay. They might appreciate not having to sit through the ceremony before getting to the party with the free food and drinks!!

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Emptyprofileicon Anna and Christopher Wedding date: July 03, 2011

July 06, 2011 7:18:34 pm

A destination ceremony is meant to be intimate so inviting more people to just the after-party back home should be understood by family and friends. Either way people are excited just to be a part of the big event.

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35398731 8251ffa5af o Jared Upton-Cosulich Wedding date: June 02, 2021 Concord, MA, USA

July 07, 2011 7:32:22 pm

It is absolutely appropriate to have seperate guest lists for the two events. Guests are understanding, particularly for destination weddings.

Sara at Wedding Favors To Love
www.weddingfavorstolove.com

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Emptyprofileicon shaye s Wedding date: August 17, 2011 Los Angeles, CA, USA

July 19, 2011 12:16:59 pm

I agree that a destination wedding is usually small and intimate. Guest will appreciate the invitation later in celebration of your marriage.

Shaye
www.eventtrendsetter.com

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Emptyprofileicon Ashika Amani Wedding date: July 16, 2011 Los Angeles, CA, USA

July 19, 2011 12:22:43 pm

I had more people at my ceremony than my reception. That is absolutely appropriate. I had two inserts for my inviation. One was for the ceremony inof and the other for the reception. I left the ceremony insert out for those invitations that were only for the reception. It worked out well. There were some people who expected both invites, but most people who are not close to the family were fien. So, my only advise is to just make sure what your guests are like and what might be their expectations. There are some ideas for weddings and invitations at www.chicweddingfavors.com if you need more input.

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