The other hotel in the area that comes to mind besides the Umstead is the Siena hotel in Chapel Hill. They also have the excellent Il Palio restaurant.
Definitely the Umstead!
I have not stayed at the Umstead but think it is one of the best places in the "luxury" category in Raleigh. If you are willing to go to Chapel Hill I just attended a wedding at the Governors Club and the view and place is absolutely beatutiful! (11000 Governors Dr
Chapel Hill, NC 27517). Another option is the Renaissance in North Hills or Marriot downtown City Center. I hope this helps and wish you luck!
The Umstead Hotel and Spa cannot be beat! It is 5 star and has the spa and Heron's the fabulous restaurant. Beautiful grounds. Very luxurious and posh. I officiate many upscale, high end weddings there.
The Umstead...but I'm biased, I got married there. =) It's the only 5 star 5 diamond hotel in NC I believe. You will not even realize you're in Cary or Raleigh. Make sure you tell them it would be your wedding night and you should get special treatment. I haven't been to the other hotels mentioned above so I can't really compare. Good luck and congrats!
The Renaissance is nice, but the Unstead is definitely the most luxurious and upscale hotel in the Raleigh area.
The Umstead is definitely the nicest in the area. The Renaissance and Marriott City Center are also good suggestions.
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