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Is it ok to have my dad and brother walk me down the aisle?

July 04, 2017 9:57:21 am

Posted in Madison, WI, USA
140558 Ashley Garlanger Wedding date: June 06, 2010 Madison, WI, USA

Me and my fiance are only having one person stand up for each of us. I was hoping and begging that my fiance would pick my brother to stand but he didnt. He picked someone that I have never even met actually. I want my brother included. Would it be weird if I had my dad and my brother walk me down the aisle?

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Emptyprofileicon anna and peter Wedding date: August 21, 2009 Madison, WI, USA

January 19, 2010 5:38:13 pm

I love that idea-- a wonderful way to include him. I toyed with the idea but our aisle was so small, I ended up having him do a reading instead.

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Emptyprofileicon Lara and Andy Wedding date: August 11, 2007 Madison, WI, USA

January 19, 2010 6:00:52 pm

Not weird at all !

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Emptyprofileicon Denise and Cullen Wedding date: August 09, 2008 Madison, WI, USA

January 19, 2010 6:03:15 pm

Now-a-days - anything goes! So go for it!

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Emptyprofileicon Taunya Ackerman Wedding date: October 10, 2010

January 19, 2010 7:00:37 pm

do it! its your wedding!

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109565 Siobhan and Tom Wedding date: June 27, 2009 Madison, WI, USA

January 20, 2010 6:14:12 am

Your wedding, so do it your way. But, consider carefully before stealing your Dad's special moment that he has probably dreamed about since you were a little girl.

There are plenty of other ways to involve your brother.... You could ask your brother to deliver a toast, do a reading during the ceremony, sing or play a special song if he's musically inclined, serve as your ring-bearer (doesn't have to be a little boy), read a special poem during the cake cutting ceremony, or countless other honors that would make the start of your marriage extra special.

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Emptyprofileicon Alana Apfelbeck Wedding date: July 23, 2010 Madison, WI, USA

January 20, 2010 7:14:08 am

I think it's a great idea. I love the thought of the brides entire immediate family walking her down the isle. But a good point was brought up...make sure your dad is ok with it :) I think asking your brother to do a toast is also very special as well. It's not often the brother of the bride gets to deliver a toast.

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Emptyprofileicon Summer F Wedding date: July 16, 2011 Madison, WI, USA

January 20, 2010 7:59:59 am

I like the idea! Very cute :)

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140558 Ashley Garlanger Wedding date: June 06, 2010 Madison, WI, USA

January 20, 2010 10:24:11 am

Thanks for all your input!

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88841 Angela Barnickel Wedding date: September 25, 2010 Madison, WI, USA

January 21, 2010 11:55:49 am

Have you thought about making him an usher?

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95016 Marilee Karamanski Wedding date: May 26, 2012 Madison, WI, USA

February 23, 2010 10:09:14 pm

Hi Ashley,
Marilee Karamanski here. There's nothing wrong with your brother and father walking you down the aisle, provided Dad's okay with it. It does tend to be an emotional moment for dads- sometimes more than they expect. So, you know your dad better than anyone in this online community, and if it's good with him, it's good.

Another thing to consider, however, is stepping a little further outside the box. It is becoming more common (and also completely acceptable) to have mixed bridal parties. You could ask your brother to stand up for *you*. There is no law (or even strict etiquette) that says you may only have women standing next to you and he may only have men next to him and both sides must have equal numbers. If your emotion and intuition are that you want your brother to be in the bridal party, then ask him to stand with you in your bridal party!

I would love to hear what solution you use!

Marilee Karamanski
www.Plannedspontaneity.net
608-556-0346

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