I haven't been to a wedding at BR but was seriously considering it for our wedding site. It was beautiful, they have a variety of settings to work with, and the family who owns it is so friendly and down to earth. The only reason why we decided against it is because of our personal connection to Napa (that's where we began dating).
Otherwise, we were going to choose BR, with pre-ceremony cocktails in the covered deck area, ceremony nestled IN the vineyards in their "secret" Olive Knoll (need small shuttle to transport guests), post-ceremony cocktails in the terraced ampitheater & deck with the vineyards as a background (this is where most ceremonies are held), then reception in the Olive Grove. However, you can mix it up anyway you choose.