Expert Advice from wedding guru, Sharon Naylor
My sister who is my maid of honor just informed me that if her kids can't come to wedding she is not coming. Our wedding is end of October and because of expense we decided from begining that it was to be an adult only evening affair. Her daughters are very tough to control (14 and 10). She wants them to attend ceremony only, but since ceremony is couple miles from hotel they will have no way to get back unless she takes them, and then what about pictures after. I am afraid if I say yes to ceremony she will threaten to leave that night if they can't stay for reception. How do I handle this? No one in my family wants to take care of girls for the evening. Please help!
How bad are the girls? Would they be able to attend the reception without causing too much distraction? Adults-only receptions are often attended by the bride and groom's siblings' kids, even if other guests couldn't bring their own. People tend to understand. Would it be possible to give the girls a table in the back of the room, and let them bring a friend each if you get any regrets or cancellations so that they're entertained?
If not, then suggest that your sister get a volunteer to take the girls back to the hotel (where they'll probably be happy to hang out by themselves, get on their cells, etc.) -- many guests bring along a relative or friend to watch the kids, so this might be a good solution for you!